anyone else write lunchbox napkin notes? it all started with one note. i thought i would write a note every now and then for E’s lunch, just as a surprise to let him know i was thinking of him at preschool. my mom used to do this. then i wrote a second note. and a third. then i didn’t write a note. E noticed and commented that he missed it. how can you not write a note after that?
i have a friend who teases me, saying i act like every moment needs to be a teacheable moment. it might be true. i can’t help myself. i may not have a classroom full of kiddos anymore, but i am always looking for that lesson. slowly, these lunchbox notes became those lessons i hoped E was carrying with him to preschool.
they are always short. and i am sure i repeat myself. amidst my have a great day’s and i love you’s, the notes say things like:
- share one hard toy today.
- say hi to someone new today.
- give three compliments to friends at lunch.
- tell your teacher he/she is doing a good job.
- remember to say please and thank you all day.
- help someone clean up a mess you didn’t make.
- find a friend who isn’t playing and ask him/her to join your game.
- play with someone new today.
- ask your teacher how you can help.
yesterday’s message might have been my favorite. be kind. have courage. these are words from one of my absolute favorite movies, the real life version of cinderella. in the movie, cinderella’s mom tells her to be kind and have courage. when i think about this line, i realize, by God’s grace, it is really all i want for my kids. be kind. have courage.
a couple days ago, i asked E if he would like me to continue the notes for kindergarten. i expected he might say no, thinking they weren’t cool. his exact response was, “yes. yes. everyday.”
now. don’t be fooled. some mornings before school are more like “oh no! the note! sorry E i forgot to write your note! you don’t mind, right? here’s what i would have said if i remembered to write your note…” but lots of days i remember. because though these napkin notes are supposed to be that, his napkin, every day they come back home, nice and white, just how i sent them. affirmation of their importance to him.